23-year-old boyfriend tells his girlfriend that she cannot come to his house because his "cat is sick", she grows suspicious, follows him home and finds out that he doesn't have a cat, is actually 40 years old and is married with 2 kids

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    "[Am I overreacting] if I break with my boyfriend without saying a word"

    "Two little kids walk out of the door, along with an older-looking woman"
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    This is a throwaway account. I am a 21f and my boyfriend is a 23m, or so I thought. Me and him have only been dating for around 4 months,and I didn't really know him before we started dating like we weren't friends or anything. He just came up to me when I was on my morning walk and asked for my number.
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    our relationship has been going strong until now. I've never been the type to go through someone's phone. but he always wants to go through mine, which for my past relationship experience that usually ends up in them cheating. so night when he said give me your phone, I said give me your first.
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    he immediately started lashing out at me saying why do you wanna look at my phone? Do you think I'm cheating? I replied with I think it's fair that if you look through my phone, I get to look through yours. He said, forget it and stormed out the door I assumed he went home that night.
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    The next day he was calling me, apologizing and me being as stupid as I was then I accepted it. he asked if we could meet and I suggested his place. I've never been to his house before, all the time we either meet somewhere else or my house. He immediately said oh no, no no no no we cannot do that.
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    I was like why not and he was like my cat is sick, I didn't know he had a cat.(turns out he doesn't have a cat.) I thought it was a little suspicious so I came up with a plan, we were gonna meet up somewhere then I was going to follow him to his house just to see where he lives, cause I have no clue where he could possibly live.
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    So we met up at a little diner restaurant place and we had a OK time he was still being a little weird and asking why I wanted to go to his house. And I was just like I just never been there. I was curious and he was like oh my cat has an internal illness so we probably won't be able to go there for a long time. and I was like oh my gosh I hope your cat is okay.
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    Later in the evening when it came to us leaving, I made sure it looks like I left the parking lot before he did, I really just went around to the other side of the building. After he pulls out of the parking lot, I let one or two cars in front of me and I just start following him.
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    I thought he lived close to me turns out he lived half an hour so when he finally pulled up to a house, it was a very nice house a very big house which is weird for only one person in his cat. he pulls up in his driveway The door opens.
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    I thought he was cheating on me and his other like girlfriend is gonna walk out, nope two little kids walk out of the door. along with an older looking woman. now my heart is racing. I'm about to start crying cause I didn't know he had kids, I could tell they were his kids because they were hugging and saying Daddy.
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    so at this point, I'm crying on my way home and I call him and I'm like do you wanna come over? and now, obviously, I should've confronted him right but no he came over and I found out his phone password and I looked through his phone. not only did I found out he was married and had two kids. But that he was all so 40 Years old!
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    I immediately felt disgusted with a 40-year-old man in my bed I don't know why I didn't notice he was 40 he looked a bit on the older side for being 23 but I just thought it was because of stress. Should I confront him or should I just break up with him and not say a word.
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    ApartmentMaterial950 Would it make you feel better if you confronted him? If it were me, I would send him a text and let him know I hope your cat, I mean your wife and kids are doing well. Please do not contact me again I'm not a side piece and deserve better.
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    Feisty_Hearing_4351 OP Yess this is very smart
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    No-Performance3639 Well if this is all true, you definitely aren't overreacting. I can't help but ask though, how did you get his password? It doesn't really matter how you break up with him but might I suggest that in the future that you actually get to know more about people before actually sleeping with them.
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    Feisty_Hearing_4351 OP I got his password from looking at his phone a few times when he was doing it
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    Both Minute_2230 Girl please RUN. Drop all contact just RUN. You also may want to send a "hey girlie" text to the wife and let her know what's up. This is disgusting insane behavior. I am so so so sorry you are going through this. No you would absolutely not be over reacting
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    Infinite-Drawer3627 At first I read the title and was like "yeah - ghosting is always a move" but then I read the bottom paragraph with the actual information and immediately changed my tune. Girl...throw the whole man away. Whatever will bring you peace of mind, either a text or a call, do it. But don't feel obligated. He's not only been lying to you this entire time, but legitimately gave you false information about himself. That's BEYOND. Ghost him, text him, call him, do whatever brings you

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